Let’s revert back to The Oldest Beauty Standard in the Room

Thirty thousand years ago, someone carved a woman out of limestone. She has heavy breasts, a soft belly, wide hips, and no face. She is the Venus of Willendorf; and for most of human history, she *was* the ideal. A body that had lived, bled, carried, fed. A body that was unmistakably, unapologetically adult.

Now look at what we’re sold.

Hairlessness. Poreless skin. Zero wrinkles. A flat stomach. Smooth everything. The ugly truth is that the modern beauty ideal doesn’t just ask women to be “attractive” - it asks them to look like they haven’t gone through puberty yet. And nobody wants to say the quiet part out loud: when a culture’s definition of desirable is *pre-adolescent*, that is a culture with a pedophilia problem dressed up in marketing.

Think about it. Body hair appears at puberty. Hips and breasts develop at puberty. Smile lines come from decades of living. Every single thing the beauty industry tells you to fix, shrink, smooth, or remove is a marker of being a grown woman. They are selling you the erasure of your own adulthood, and charging you a fortune for it.

Anti-aging alone is a $70 billion global industry. That number doesn’t exist because women naturally hate themselves. It exists because an enormous commercial machine needs you to believe that the most natural thing a human body does - age - is a disease. That your laugh lines are damage. That your body hair is unhygienic. That your appetite is a moral failing. None of this is accidental. It is manufactured self-hatred with a profit motive.

And the word we keep dancing around is *pedophilia*. Not in the sense that every woman who books a wax appointment is complicit in something sinister, but in the sense that the *blueprint* these standards are drawn from is the body of a child. Smooth. Hairless. Narrow. Untouched by time. When that is the baseline for “beautiful,” we need to ask who designed it, and why we’re still obeying.

The Venus of Willendorf didn’t need Botox. She didn’t need to be thin. She was sacred *because* she had lived in her body, not in spite of it.

So here’s the call: grow out your body hair. Let your face move. Eat the meal. Stop apologising for taking up the space that your adult body was always meant to occupy. These industries don’t survive your self-acceptance: they depend on your shame. The most radical thing you can do is stop buying what they’re selling and start recognising that you were never the problem.

The standard was. And it needs to die.