The Art of Feminine Courtship

The art of saying "I want you"

I woke up this morning, after an incredibly vivid dream.

I was on a date, down by a wharf, sitting on an old wooden bench alone, whilst my date went off to buy a drink.

But my mind was on another man - one that I mysteriously had the number of, saved in my phone.
I knew he was close - I had seen him walk by just a few minutes beforehand.

And so, I text him.

“I want you”

He made his way to me and asked me if I would like to go for a walk.

I abandoned my date and left with him.

We walked, found a candy store and ordered a wild, extravagant mixture of treats and left the venue together.

I woke up this morning, the dream vividly with me still - and a strange sense of feeling like I had found myself again.

For those of you that know my journey - you will know that I havent been in a LONG TERM stable relationship since I was 24. I have had partners since them - but not long term partners.

I have been dating for the past year and a half (I went through almost a 2 year period of celibacy when I was pregnant and in postpartum) and have been enjoying finding the muse in different men. In particular, the man I am currently dating, which, by the way, is an entire post worth of content - so I will save that for another day when I feel inspired to share my journey with him, with you. He is not on social media and does not read anything I write, which is strangely liberating - and something I didn’t know I was looking for in a man. It frees my creative expression in a way that I wouldn’t have expected (I don't mind when men see my writing - but it definitely stirs some err of apprehension in me, as it has been a deal breaker in the past).

So, as I was getting dressed this morning and reflecting on my dream, I was musing on how all of my greatest, most beautiful long term relationships have formed from me courting the men with my desire.

Essentially, its been when I have said “I want you”

I used to write my name and number on pieces of paper for men when I was in fine dining, slipping it to them mid meal; even when they were in important business meetings.

Both doctors I have dated and partnered with, I approached in the wards and flirted with them, whilst they were on client runs.

I used to have much more of a courting edge to me, which I have lost since falling pregnant.

But, something from my dream tells me it is returning again.

And with it, I feel my feminine aliveness returning.

For this next chapter, I am calling in more of my Siren energy.

You see, whilst the patriarchal narrative is that men should pursue and choose a woman - there is something important missing from this conversation.

Many women sit around waiting to be pursued - and yet they are writing lists about what they want, with no real connection to their desire.

Desire is the signal that calls men into your field.

If you want to attract a partner into your life, you have to be truly connected to your feminine desire - which is the gate into magnetism.

And whilst we believe men lead - and this IS true to a certain degree.

They can only lead when they hear the call.

And that call comes from you - the woman.

It comes from you leading with your desire - knowing what you want and summoning that in with your pussy and your heart.

It comes from you saying, “I want you. All of you”.