Why I (typically) don't date in the spiritual industry

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I typically keep my relationships quiet and concealed.

Usually, only my closest friends know about my dating life.

And typically, I do not date within my own industry — and more specifically, not within the spiritual industry.

In fact, most of the men I date, no one knows and I like it that way.

I am a Scorpio (ahem, Scorpio sun conjunct mercury, pluto, lilith and mars is also in the mix there). I like depth, and I like some things to be concealed and hidden from the public.

Relationships, for me, are one of those things.

People get confused sometimes, because I can be quite bold in what I share publicly, online. And yet, I am also deeply secretive and interior about a lot of what transpires in my life.

I like to keep my relationships, just for me. Not for others. And certainly not for the public.

Which is funny, because I have just written a whole book, inspired by the muse (my lover) that has been in my life for the past two years. It has been the most intense, soul lluminating lovership of my life.

He is a scorpio, like myself, born two days after me. Also deeply private — he keeps his life entirely off social media and has, in fact, chosen to wipe his internet footprint clean (you can barely find reference to him on the internet, even though he is a filmmakrer). He doesn’t like being in the limelight.

And yet.. he has a bestselling book dedicated to him… ha, funny how things work isn’t it.

I like dating outside of my industry. In fact, I am not sure I can have it any other way…

I learned this the hard way some years ago, dating someone in my industry, who joined me in some of my trainings, and crossed my boundaries (well, he had no boundaries), flirting with women in the space in total disrespect of our connection. I closed that swiftly some years ago and never looked back. Since then, I made a pact with myself to date people that would not cross over with my teaching circles and sphere — someone that I do not even have to talk about my work to. I like it this way. My frienships and collaborations are for esoteric sh*t talk and banter. My love life is my place where I come home and unwind.

If you want to read about my particular journey with love over the past two years, I have written about it in my latest release, The Shape that Love Refuses to Take: Love as Magnum Opus. It released on the Venus Jupiter conjunction in Cancer this week and has so far, been a bestseller in multiple categories in The US, Australia and Germany (eee, thankyou!).

I am offering the e-book for just 99c for another 12 hours before I put the prices up.

You can purchase your copy here:

Oh, and I have a heartfelt request. If this book has touched you or moved you in some ways, that you write an amazon review for the book. I am in my era of receivership, and so this would mean oh-so-much to me.

Thankyou.

With love from the Netherlands,

Sigourney Belle x

(I am celebrating today by going to the largest occult museum/library in the world, The Bibliotheca Philosophica Hermetica (Ritman Library) and by having my first coffee for the week (I have been off coffee whilst teaching this week) + getting a massage in Amsterdam. Yum.